I wouldn't be very honest if I told you I didn't with struggle with rejection. Honestly, I struggle with it all the time. And it's bizarre to me, because i can be such a strong willed, march to the beat of my own drum kind of person... But when it comes to asking for what I want in some arena's... Let's just say I am definitely a work in progress.
But, i've learned lately, that i really need to stop being afraid to hear the word no. I need to speak up, and ask for what i want... Because people WILL take advantage of you, given the opportunity. And finally, to ask myself... Why am i SO nervous about asking.
Seriously, this is something i have struggled with since i was a little girl... And truthfully, i may start seeing someone about it, so i can really break down with their issue stemmed from. I can vividly remember being petrified to ask my uncles if i could turn on the TV, or if I could have a snack... That i would have rather gone hungry then grow the balls to ask, or to speak up if i wanted to watch something.
There's a few things however I have been keeping in my toolbelt to help me get over the fear of rejection, and i thought i would share them with you today.
1. Preparation is key. Although I am one for positive mindset, i think this new age bend we have gotten on has really talking things for a whirl. I'm all for positive thing. But i'm even more so for putting in the necessary work to achieve your goals. It's so easy to just say you are going to think positive, but remember if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. If you are prepared you can go into a situation way more confident. And therefore more positive about the outcome.
2. Don’t let rejection define you. You shouldn’t be attaching your self worth to whatever it is that you are trying to attain. And if you are letting your rejection define you, I would think you need to re-evaluate the priority you have been placing this thing in your life. You are worth so much more than whatever that thing may be.
3. Rejection isn’t always a bad thing and often the things that I have been rejected from… either ended up being what I didn’t want… or it was a matter of there was better things out there for me. I know that kinda sounds like, i've just sugar coated some situations. But seriously - some of the things that I fought the hardest for... Were the things that just truly were NOT meant to be, and just went to shambles. I really don't think if something is M E A N T to be, its going to be that difficult to attain. It may be hard work, but it shouldn't be like everything in the universe is working against you in order for it to happen.
How do you get over your fears of rejection ? Or are you superman / superwoman and have no problem with it at all ? If so, share your skills with me !